Being a new dad is so exciting but also stressful.
Taking that wee baby home, and suddenly you are on your own and wonder what to do with him or her, you are both tired and your families want to be there.
Keeping your relationship positive is important to both of you, making you feel loved, supported and cared for.
As a new dad, your partner is going to feel exhausted, as will you, and its the little things you do for her that make her feel cared for and loved, and makes her feel able to cope.
Your partner will feel stressed and tired. If you can help with the baby in any way, or let her get extra naps, she will feel better and really appreciate your support and this will make you feel closer. Tell her often how much you love her, how well she is doing, and reassure her that the baby i s doing well.
Be patient, with yourself and your partner, the exhaustion will pass, the baby will settle down and all the petty little comments, because you are feeling tired, will also pass.
Also you both probably want to let your families enjoy this new little baby, but you may be the one who has to say to the family that you need some time to yourselves, or even better, take you and your partner out and leave them to help clean the house. (They won’t mind).
For the future, the relationship that you have with each other, is the model that your child will have for their life, teaching them how to get on with people, how to love, how to believe in yourself, so this little one will be learning by what they absorb all the time. Even the little arguments you have is teaching them how to resolve real life situations.
However, if life is really not going well, get some outside support. You can call me if you are struggling with anything, or just want to talk things through.
Remember, not to take life too seriously, babies are strong wee things that cope with lots of different circumstances.
For both of you, you do not need to be perfect, learn to laugh when you get it wrong.
And remember No.1 priority enjoy this special time.