This week Fortnite, perhaps the most popular game ever, has been cited as the cause of 200 divorces.
Fortnite is fun, people say they are addicted; it bonds peers and families and can be a great addition to our lives. It tends to seep into our lives and take over more of our time than we intended. We are able to laugh about it and it gives us a talking point at work and play. Peer pressure is a big aspect of time in any media, its social suicide not to take part. Last year it was Pokémon and that had you hooked before you knew it but it passes. If we keep gaming in perspective and the other areas of our lives are balanced then life is good but when it becomes truly addictive it can challenge relationships.
Addiction through gaming, called Gaming Disorder is now being recognised as a health issue.
It is easy to live our lives online but it can seep further into our lives than anticipated and can fuel behavioural and addiction problems, in areas including: Social Media, Gaming, Porn, Sex or Hook up sites.
Last week Candy Crush was in the news, for women it is identified as an addiction and they may even take stimulants to stay up all night to play, similarly Fortnite. Social media also is fun but we can give it too much importance and it has the potential to harm – it can give us an unrealistic ideal to live up to and impact on our confidence and self esteem.
BE ALERT to the amount of time you spend on line.
When does Gaming change from being fun to a problem and possible addictive behaviour. This is when you give priority to the gaming over the other important things in your life. The gaming is impacting on your Relationships, Marriage, Family, Work, and Education. You find you are having ever-greater arguments about the time you spend on the game site. Even though it upsets those around you or has negative consequences you continue to give it priority. You may feel the gaming is controlling you. This is similar with other addictive behaviours such as alcohol, drugs, and gambling or sexual addiction.
- We have difficult things going on in our lives
- Emotional issues
- Poor relationships
- Hurt from the past
Addictive behaviour can be a way of avoiding difficult or uncomfortable feelings.
Addiction, Gaming and Relationships
Addiction has a huge impact on relationships, marriage and families. It finds you alone, giving up your happiness for another, feeling unloved, taking on more responsibility for the relationship and everyday tasks. Addiction to gambling, alcohol, substances can have a huge impact on money you have.
Living with someone in the grips of an addiction is very distressing. You can find yourself in circles of arguments, promises, forgiveness and then back to where you started.
Speaking to a therapist can help you find clarity out of the confusion, lessen the distress and to find a way forward most suitable to you. You can also seek help from your GP or agencies including, Scottish Families Affected by Alcohol & Drugs, AA and Gamblers Anonymous Scotland.